Category: Singles Spit Swap
Hello. May name is Dave. I've been on the zone here for probably close to a year give or take. I'm from arkansas and I'm 36 and totally blind. At the time I don't have a degree in anything but I've had 3 years of college. I'm outgoing. I like to listen to music. I like to talk on the phone and especially talk on here. I'm looking for some one who is caring and who isn't judgmental. The next thing I'd like to talk about is something that I probably ought not to on here but its about a fetish I have. the particulr fetish is that I enjoy it if a girl wets her pants. Basically I like to see a girl squirming and figitting around if she needs to use the bathroom and then finally get to the point whare she can't hold it and then just wets her pans. I ideally would want to have a person who may or may not share the same interest but who would be willing to do that. If you're not however its ok. I'm not the type of guy who would force people to do something that they're uncomfortable with. Anyhow. Hope to get some responses. I'm sure I'll get some interesting ones but unfortunately that's what happens with this stuff some times. thanks everybody.
Hey man. No... Don't worry. I know you're streight, so that's not what this is about. I just want to wish you lots of luck, and I hope you find the one you're looking for. I'm glad to see that you've put this out here. You'll get some really nasty crap, I know, and I hate that for you, but it's better to be hated for something you are than to be loved for something you're not. But now it's out here for all to see, so your chances of finding that special someone are a bit greater. We can't help what turns us on. I'm a bit out of the norm in that aspect as well, so I understand.
good luck to you.
Moving this to the singles board.
to each their own...but wow!!
nasty!!
I've actually seen this fetish before. I used to belong to an email list for singles, and a guy on their had this same requirement for women he dated. As far as I know, he's still single. But good luck anyway.
Yea with me its not a requirement per say its ok if the peson I'm seeing and or dating isn't into that because everyone is different so. Thanks for the post. I was scared about putting this on here but all seems to be going well so far.
wow uh wow. not my type at all. good luck I guess?
OK, I am so totally turned off right now. Wow, what a way to.....yeah! I'll hush! Definitely not my thing!
Ok. That's ok.
I'm interested if you'd have gotten more response just stating that you are available and wishing for companionship, then after you knew the lady for a time explained your wishes to her would you have gotten that as well from her? It doesn't seem to be a difficult thing to give in the right settings, and now and then, but stating a sexual need along with a companion need, even though the sexual need is always their might have been to soon? All that is a long question.
Yea true.
wayne, I do see your point, but This will also help weed out the totally uninterested ones as well. I have made many a male friend in my life, and a couple of them were extremely dear to me. Back then though, I kept my desires very deeply hidden. These guys believed I was straight, so I ended up being afraid to tell them how I felt about them for fear of losing their friendship. your approach is what I would have done, years ago, but now, I lean more toward Dave's approach. just put it out there and weed out those who would be turned off or who would judge me.
yea and that's why I did that. i was scared to at fitst but.
ok. a lot of us find it strange. whatever, but why the hell does everyone that finds it weird have to say it. just move on with your lifes. no one gives a shit that you find it grose. your just being hateful for no reason. he didn't ask for everyone's opinion on it. I hate when people do that.
I think your doing the right thing. as anthony said. who wants to waste time getting to no someone, and the whole time your worried about eventually telling them. then you do and they freak out? no. that's a waste of your time, and that hurts. better to weed out those people from the start. that way your not worried. or hurt in the end. I no you were worried about putting this out there but its better this way.
just my muzings on it. good luck
people are simply adding their two cents. like it or not, that sort of thing comes with the territory.
Oh its ok. I don't mind. As long as people don't start acting weird like they were today. In fact I had to put a bunch of people on ignore because of that.
Oh I'm not being hateful. I am honestly interested in if he'd have better successs getting to know a lady first as a possible date, then as they talk he'd say what he likes. Being gay is something you must be daily, but his wants are not something that will be asked on a daily bases, so maybe it is possible that a lady that likes him as a person, but has never thought about doing something like he's requesting might give it a try. He's not asking for anything dangerous, or health downing, but a sexual need that can be done easy with no lasting effects.
The guys that I've talked to with this fetish do tend to want it quite a lot. In the right setting, they can be surrounded by stimulants. They'll see a woman in a place like walMart who is trying to hold it until she can get to a bathroom and it turns them on. they probably know better than to act on it, but still. And yes, I've talked to several guys who are in to this sort of thing. I don't see how anyone can take a sexual desire and prioritize it like that, but maybe that's just a flaw in my own thought process. If a guy really likes big breasted women, is it good to tell him to just settle for a small breasted one, and have a big breasted one every once in a while? I see no difference between the two lines of thought.
oh I didn't mean you. I ment people that just wrote nasty and oh wow, what a turn off. you asked a question. that's understandable. and maybe even helpful
Hi folks. One of the things that should be pointed out here is this. In the first place in my initial post I said that my fetish was is that I wanted a girl to wet her pants. In many of these posts people have thought that this was a requirement. It is not. You aalso need to remember as you read the post that I specifically said that I would not force a girl to do it if she didn't want to.
Ah, so it's something that you really would settle for just once in a while then? If that's the case, I stand corrected on my last post. Sorry for any confusion.
I agree with Rissa on this one. Although I have him on ignore because of some things I won't mention here, and I don't find it fitting to my preferences, he's doing a courageous thing by posting that openly.
if the original poster can't handle others saying what a turnoff his particular fetish is, he shouldn't have posted this topic in the first place. just sayin'.
yes it's always best to be honest from the start, but the fact is, most people find that absolutely disgusting.
Yes. I won't lie. I, too, am completely turned off by such a thing, but at least he's not going to get his heart broken later by telling a person when they're already in a relationship. I say it's better not to be in a relationship at all than to be in one for the wrong reasons. So, to the original poster, you're very courageous for posting this, and I honestly wish you the best, especially since you've made it clear it's not a must for you.
You know one of the things that is being talked about is that I can't seem to handle the responses. I can handle them just fine. yes most people do find that gross and disgusting but look at all the other fetishes out there. People going on eachother. Mine is nothing. What I cannot handle and will not tolerate is people who act like tickle my elmo and 3 other people were acting like yesterday and I also should say that its a good thing they weren't physically here in my house because if they were then we'd really have problems. Asking me if I swallow and things like that. Leaving me voicemails saying stuff such as I love you boo and other stuff. That's why I had to put them on ignore because they didn't want to talk to me about it they just wanted to act stupid. Another person, a girl mind you who was 14 years old by the name of kgb chick asked if she could cme over to my house. She also asked me to leave my address in her voicemail because she thought what I was into was hot. I'm sorry but most guys would probably just say ok come on over so they can get their rocks off. they get their rocks off and what happens? The girls parents report it and they go to jail for being with a minor and the 14 year old girl who may I remind you is a minor and who's under age, now she gets pregnant or worse has aids or god knows what other sexually transmitted disease of which there probably isn't a cure for because the guy has been with 10 possibly 12 or 14 or 16 possibly 20 to 30 other girls, and furthermore hasn't been honest about it at all says oh its not my problem. Furthermore it really isn't his problem he's in jail. He's got other legal problems to deal with. So. Now the girl has to raise this kid by herself and most likely has to quit school because raising a kid is a full time job and the guy gets out of jail later on and goes out and does the same thing again. Such a life ha? I'm sorry. I'm not one of those guys.
I have to agree with poster 25. I think you are being brave in a sense. Good luck.:)
Thanks. I hope we can still talk. In fact I'm on right now if you want to tlak.
Okay, so you put it out here, and because of that it made me think. I think first a fetish is or should remain a private matter between you and your lady such as this one, due to social thinking as you can see. Looking at it at face value it’s not any different from a man wanting a lady to give him oral sex, dress up in a diaper and talk baby talk, or a nursing outfit, but it’s not social if you understand. It is also not something you need daily, not is it something you cannot be, such as if you were gay, less endowed, and other things. This fetish is a case of pure giving, meaning, a lady might be willing to wet her pants for you, because she likes you, and it’s really a simple thing to do, but asking for it before you know her name seems to forward to me. It seems you now have put yourself in the position of not getting what you want, because any lady that answers your add won’t be sure you’ll not make it public that she has answered. Smile. You pointed that out just now talking about a Zoner that you claimed agreed to come to your house. We’ll never know if she was teasing or serious, but there is now doubt right? If I wanted, for example, a lady to put on a diaper, and walk around and talk baby talk to me, I’d get to know her first, as a possible date, her name, likes, dislikes, that sort of thing, and in the course of these conversations soon the topic of sex will come up, and then I’d ask if she might be willing to grant me this wetting. If she’s a reasonable thinker she might say sure, because it is private, and is really easy. All she need do is not go, sit down next to you and have a regular evening until she’s got to pee and let you know it then its on right? But now if a woman answers this add, and you get her interested and all well she’ll have to deal with that social thing too. Wetting her pants for you doesn’t take anything away from her doesn’t make her less smart, nice, or anything, and I have seen right on this site women saying they’d enjoy what is called a golden shower, or men saying it might be fun, and that could be smoke and no fire, but no one is saying he or she is looking for a date and adding that as one of their requirements. You’re not any different technically, but you see why I ask my question.
Maybe stating you are open minded sexually is better? Smile. I do thank you for the education, and wonder if you will be successful.
Hi, if this isn't a requirement from the lady, then as mentioned above, it's something that should come up naturally between you two as you are getting to know each other.
However, if it is something you really want to include in your future relationship, and want someone who will be into doing this for you, then the zone might not be the best place to place this sort of post as the personals board is full of well meaning people trying to meet other well meaning people and finding nothing but ridicule.,
It's of bad taste to blast people's info into the open and that's something you've been doing in your responses.
Why not try some alternative lifestyle dating sites?
And by the way, this isn't an unusual fetish, but I wouldn't put it out there unless I was indeed, looking for someone in an alternative dating site.
Too late to do this now, but the Graff boards under Sex anon would of been a better place to test the waters...
Well since people can post anything they want on the quicknotes, and they usually do I figured I could post this on here. Besides I actually first posted this thing on the dating and relationships board and it was moved over here. So. Even on the dating and relationships board it even said that people could talk about sex and if this really was a problem then the community leaders would have removed it. Maybe someone will come along. Maybe they won't. Everybody else puts their lives in the open on here and I'm gonna do the same thing.